I know it’s been a while since my last blog but what better way to make a comeback than this burning, yet unreasonably controversial still topic of female equality, or even dominance?
I’ve been a feminist since I can remember myself. My mother and her mother were both very strong, independent women, and I knew early in life that I wouldn’t get away with being a vulnerable creature who stands by her man’s side.
So why are some people (men, in particular) still baffled when they find out that we, women, are better than them in many areas, that we sometimes make more money, or that we have adopted their polygamic ways? That is the mystery to me. I am not saying that I prefer a home stay dad, whose only interests would include healthy cooking and the art of gardening, but we gotta be able to find the gold middle, I would think. It is an undeniable fact that men have gotten more diverse (some people call it womanly) – but I can only give them kudos for that. What woman doesn’t love a man, who takes care of himself, has nice, polished nails, a perfectly shaped goatee, and velvet skin?
Although these qualities have been tradionally associated with the female gender, I do not think they are reserved for us. We should be able to enjoy what they, men, enjoy in us. I don’t know about you but I prefer the smell of a good cologne to the ever-so-slight scent of sausage links or beef jerkey.
It’s obvious that gender roles have taken a wide turn on the positive side. Metrosexuals, ubersexuals – guys are not afraid of being "feminine" these days. And why should they? If women can take on roles traditionally associated with our "strong" halves, men should be able to as well. Gender equality goes both ways. We cannot frown upon men that are better groomed and dressed than us, just like men should get used to the fact that there are more capable women out there. I think these role reversal would urge both genders to strive for improvement. A woman that is better than a man at those supposedly masculine jobs, deserves admiration, not ridicule, fueled by someone’s inferiority issues. Sad thing is, there are too many folks (men and women) out there, who would rather hate on someone for being better than them, rather than learn and try to become their better selves. That attitude has not, and will not get anyone far. Kudos to guys, who color coordinate, have better table manners, or use more beauty products than us. Some women have a lot to learn from those guys. We’d all become better at being a certain gender if we took pointers from the opposite gender. I would not throw a temper tantrum if my man cooked better than me; instead, I would try to learn from him and become better at it.
Ultimately, this mix and match of gender peculiarities would lead to a better understanding of the opposite sex, and maybe equality would be a more realistic expectation. But to get there, men need to adapt to the changes that have occured and will keep occuring in modern society. The women you, men, know, may be great at cooking, cleaning, knitting, scrapbooking, or changing diapers – but they are also great at leading, strategizing, public speaking, analyzing data, crunching numbers, and many other activities men are supposed to be better at. I recently saw a bumper sticker, which said "What guys can do girls can do better" – now, as much as I’d like this to be true, being the feminist I’ve been trained to be, I must admit that is a very gendercentric statement. I do not claim to be better at life than most men; while I may be better than some men at a number of things, I certainly give credit when credit is due. This may sound stereotypical but I still don’t know how to open the hood of my car. I had just learnt how to do it on my old car, when I got a new one. The truth is, however, that most women AND men don’t even have to know how to do it. Sure, you’d get a lot of shit from your friends if you are a guy and don’t know how to pop the hood, but that’s what auto repair shops are for! I just want all you men to acknowledge that women are smart creatures, completely capable of carryout out any human task, be it something historically considered masculine or feminine in nature. I am ready to admit that I know men, who are better at cooking, waiting, sewing, dressing, doing hair or makeup, than many women I know.
The bottomline is, every gender, when given the opportunity, has the equal potential of learning new tricks and trades. Women may be from Venus, and men – from Mars – but women should be allowed to land on Mars whenever they feel like it, and vice versa. I am working on building a space shuttle between the two :]
Preach on sista. Gender roles are dissolving, and that is a good thing. My boyfriend is way more domesticated than I will ever be. My idea of cleaning is cleverly hiding messes — he actually cleans. In addition, my career has been much more colorful than my boyfriend’s. Someday soon, I will be the breadwinner of our relationship. Gender is not the issue, being different people with different goals is. If I had to sit in the kitchen and cook, I would take Valium by the handful. It’s just not for me. Nice post.
Once again I found myself reading your post. and may be the only man who actually comments on it … ha (but at least I’m confident in myslf to do so) and that is particulairly my point; when someone is better than another in any area of life regardless of gender it must be acknoledged I do beleive in gender equality, however you must also agree that many feminists have gone above and beyond the call of duty if you know what I mean. Many men … and women will not admit it when deffeated or “one-uped” after all its gender equality we are after not superioity of one over the other. it should not be a compitition. we are all who we are; good at some things and not at others. I’m responing to this only to add to it for all the readers out there .. keep in mind I am man but I still go for a routine waxing. I’ll stop there before i become a feminists myself!!!
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